Learning about that community made me feel equal parts angry and sad. The anger is obvious (misogyny sucks) but the sadness came from a growing understanding that having a formula to interact with women makes some socially awkward men feel more confident and safe.
I wish the end-goal of those formulae wasn’t to end up back at her place sweatily fingering her like maybe there’s something stuck up there, but I appreciate wanting something that feels like a cheat-sheet for human interactions.
I often wish men had access to a cheat-sheet for how to interact with women in public without sexual intent. I often wish men never approached me in public. I often wish men, like, didn’t exist in public. But probably only one of those things is reasonable.
So, because I couldn’t find said cheat-sheet, I wrote one my goddamn self. Here it is for all your hand-wringing ‘isn’t this reverse sexism?’ pleasure.